Now entering Hobbit Mode
The other day I asked my husband when he was going on his work trip. He said, "Why?" I told him I just wanted to know, but I could tell he felt suspicious cause I normally never ask him about his work. He said, "Why do you want to know?" So finally I just told him: "Cause when you leave, I want to spend the entire weekend drinking wine and playing video games."
Sometimes I get in these moods where I don't want to do anything. I don't want to go anywhere, I don't want to study anything, I don't want to exercise, I don't want to read, I don't want to do anything that would enrich my life in a positive way. I only want to partake in pure unadulterated pleasure, beach myself on the nearest couch, and do nothing. Just crawl into my little home (or apartment) and not come out for a while.
I feel like this is harder when you're married. I'm never alone, and sometimes I have these moments where I crave alone time and my own space to do weird Hobbity shit in.
So anyway, he went away for the week, and that weekend I downloaded Paralives (after my friend raved about it to me) and drank an entire bottle of Trader Joe's wine. During this, my friend called me and, ironically, she was in the middle of her own Hobbit Mode. Her husband was also away (camping), and she was getting high and playing Elder Scrolls.
While we were talking, I was like, "Why do we wait for our husbands to leave before we do this?" She didn't have an answer really. She just said, "I don't know; I'm always busy." And I guess I am too. I do have downtime, where I read or watch movies or whatever. But like most freelancers, I spend most of the day working. My apartment is also small, with no real space of my own.
I sometimes wonder if this isn't really about being alone, it's about having complete dominance over a space. Socially, it's considered odd to be married and still crave your own bedroom. Apparently, when you're in a relationship, you're supposed to meld into the other person and become one, like a fused Dragon Ball Z character or something. But like most things in life, balance is key. So maybe Hobbit Mode has some health benefits, too
Unfortunately, I didn't like Paralives (nothing will replace that Sims 2 itch, sadly - although maybe that's for the best because I would get nothing else done if that were the case), and it was overpriced for what it was, but it was nice to relax and be alone for a while.